I’m away this week enjoying a 10th annivesary vacation with my husband. In celebration I’m delighted to feature a series of guests writing their thoughts on love, friendship and partnership. Please welcome Corinne from Trains, Tutus and Tea Time. I’ve met Corinne in person. The calm and serenity that she evokes at her place are a testament to exactly how she is in person. Her writing is breathtaking, her honesty inspiring, and her photos simply delightful. I’m fortunate to call her friend. Her post today is the real deal. I relate to her words and sentiments. Marriage is never perfect, there ARE butterflies and headaches. But we are blessed when we find a partner who accepts us for who we are. Thanks Corinne!
by Corinne at Trains, Tutus and Tea Time
When Christine asked me to write a post about marriage, I agreed immediately. As my husband and I recently celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary, I thought the topic was relevant and the writing would come easily.
But it hasn’t. I’ve struggled with this post. There’s so much to our marriage, that knowing where to start is difficult. I live in our marriage every day, I know the ins and outs of it, the heartbreak and the heartwarming events that have happened in the last five years.
We’ve celebrated the birth of two babies, have moved three times, had several job changes between us, battled my alcoholism – together. While we’ve endured countless sleepless nights due to crying babies, we’ve also seen our share of adult tears being spilled on pillows. We’ve held back from each other, we’ve bared our souls to each other.
We’re still finding our way through our marriage.
It’s good and it’s blissful and it’s trying and it’s beautiful. The union of two people, two individuals, is not easy. I didn’t expect it to be. But what we have is so much better, so much more, than I had hoped for.
We listen to each other. We hear each other. We talk and hold hands and give the occasional dirty look. There are rolled eyes and longing glances. There are butterflies and headaches.
When eyes are rolled and voices occasionally raised, there’s always a backdrop of love.
We are real.
And we love each other.
While looking for a bit of inspiration for this post, I glanced through a scrapbook we made of cards from our wedding day. I came across the one my parents gave us, which included the poem below. It sums up what I would wish for in a marriage, and what I’m finding out – day in and day out – we have.
Congratulations on 10 years of wedded bliss, Christine and Jay.
An Uncommon Love
May you have the love
only two can know
May you go where only
two as one may go
May the sun rise and set
in your bonded hearts
and the moon never find you
too long apart
May you cherish each other’s
dreams as your own
and turn stumbling blocks
into stepping stones
May you brave life’s mountains
and miles together
May there be no storm
your love cannot weather
May you always be lovers
and allies and friends
May your souls’ conversation
May you capture on earth
what’s in heaven above
May your hearts know the rapture
of an uncommon love
Image: ‘Six Years‘ via a Creative Commons license.